Sexual arousal in men is a complex process. This includes the processing of external information (what the stronger sex sees and hears), the psychological readiness for sex, the anticipation of pleasure and the immediate physiological reaction of the body. How this process happens in men and how to speed up arousal is useful for every woman to know.
Where does it all start?
Arousal is initiated by a variety of sensory stimuli. The smell of a girl, her kisses and touches, her appearance (especially without clothes) stimulate centers in the brain that transmit a signal to the genitals through the nervous system.
Hormones are involved in this process. Dr. John Bancroft, an American sexologist and part-time 4th director of the Kinsey Institute for Sex Research, claims that the level of testosterone in the blood determines the degree of arousal of a man. This conclusion came as a result of a study, the results of which were published in the Journal of Endocrinology in the article "Endocrinology of Sexual Arousal".
As a result, an erection occurs. This is the filling of the cavernous bodies of the penis with blood. The muscles contract and block the venous outflow, due to which the penis becomes hard, grows (on average 3-4 times) and the pulse is felt. Often such a reaction occurs within seconds of sexual stimulation. Interestingly, during foreplay, an erection can weaken and strengthen again - this is completely normal.
The British Journal of Urology International published a study conducted on 20 thousand men. The sizes of their genitals were measured. Men from all over the world participated. As a result, it turned out that the average penis size at rest is 9. 16 cm and during erection - 13. 12 cm.
There are three types of erections. One of them - nocturnal (spontaneous) - occurs without sexual overtones. The other two accompany sexual arousal in men.
Psychogenic (or psychological) - occurs against the background of stimulation of centers in the brain. Nerve impulses are transmitted to the spinal cord and then along the nerves to the reproductive system.
Reflex – occurs as a result of penile contact. Since this organ has many nerve endings and its skin is extremely sensitive, even light touches can cause irritation and blood flow to the penis.
In addition to an erection, a man's pulse quickens, his breathing becomes faster, and his blood pressure rises (as in the female half of the population). The scrotum becomes thicker and may become denser and the testicles are raised. The upper part of the body turns slightly red. A lubricating fluid is released, facilitating the sperm's passage through the canal.
What turns men on?
In addition to a beautiful image (a naked woman, or dressed in lacy underwear, dancing, lying seductively, etc. ), foreplay plays a big role. Men also need it to make the arousal as strong as possible. The surest way for a girl to turn a guy on is to stimulate his sensitive areas. These include:
- Head, neck and chest.
- Abdomen (especially the lower part) and back.
- Genital organs and surrounding areas.
Foreplay begins, in most cases, with kissing. A passionate kiss from a girl can already cause an erection and put a man in the right mood. There are many nerve endings on the lips; in addition, he feels the sexuality of his partner and anticipates the upcoming sex. At this time, the occipital area can be stroked with your hands; this area is also very sensitive. Many men like it when they kiss and bite their earlobes, but you need to be careful with this, as there are those who categorically do not like this procedure.
The lower abdomen is a great area to caress before oral sex (from the belly button down). The back is suitable for erotic massage. By the way, it can be done not only with your hands, but also with your lips, hair and bare chest.
With the genitals, everything is clear - any movements in this area are welcome and cause sexual arousal in men. You should be careful with sudden movements; guys may fear for the safety of their dignity. Blowjob, manual techniques - all this maximizes the desire of the partner. Nearby areas include the inner thighs, which you can stroke with your hands.
Representatives of the stronger sex get excited quite quickly. But they need more time (from several hours to a day) to rest and fully recover after sex than women, since the process takes a lot of energy. Therefore, repeated sexual arousal may not happen quickly for all men and this should be treated with understanding.
Sexual arousal in men
When you see a partner who is sexually attractive to you, you are stimulated first psychologically and then physically. But how this happens is a little-known question for most people. What does science say? He considers arousal to be a normal sexual response.
Or rather, its first phase. That is, a whole series of procedures. They have no differences between the sexes: increased breathing and heart rate, appearance of muscle tension, increased blood pressure, increased salivation, dilated pupils, appearance of redness and bumps, as well as erect nipples.
With sexual arousal, psychological behavior, look and voice change. This is due to the release of hormones into the blood, which act on the body like medicine. In men, in addition to the above, there is an erection of the penis, the rise of the scrotum to the pubis, its swelling and thickening, as well as the release of pre-ejaculation to lubricate the head.
In women, there is additional lubrication, thinning or, on the contrary, enlargement of the labia majora (depending on whether the woman has given birth or not), erection of the clitoris, elevation and enlargement of the uterus, tension of the pubic muscles and an increase in the length of the vagina.
By the way, if in men reddening of the skin is observed in rare cases, then in women there is a rush of blood not only on the clitoris and lips, but also on the chest and back. In some women, this flushing is so noticeable that during and after orgasm, the area between the chest to the shoulders and neck may even turn red.
Why is there so much backlash? They are associated with a rush of blood, which the body performs to achieve greater sensitivity of the genitals, and readiness for the second phase of the cycle of sexual reactions - intercourse. After the arousal phase there are: a plateau phase (sexual intercourse), an orgasm phase and a phase of completion of sexual reactions.
The arousal phase may not occur. This is often a physical rather than a psychological problem. Erectile dysfunction (impotence) is a disorder in which the strength of an erection is insufficient for sexual intercourse. There are three types of disability: psychological, organic and mixed.
In most men, erectile dysfunction is associated with the organic form due to various diseases. The most common causes of this are cardiovascular disease, diabetes and hormonal disorders. The quality of blood supply to organs and hormone levels are disturbed.
With certain diseases, bad habits, taking certain drugs, especially those that affect the central nervous system and a sedentary lifestyle, the blood flow to the pelvic organs weakens, which is why the main reaction of sexual stimulation in a man does not occur - the filling of thecorpora cavernosa with blood.
Drugs, alcohol and smoking affect not only the physical, but also the psychological state, which is why impotence goes from an organic form to a mixed one. You can't delay this condition; it can be easily fixed at first. You should see a urologist or sex therapist.
Men are sexually aroused much more often than they achieve orgasm. Long-term abstinence can cause serious damage to the body in general and the genitals in particular. The favorite motto of women "we will excite you and not leave you" is good in moderation - you should not abuse such entertainment. Sexual dissatisfaction seriously affects not only physical but also mental health. The man becomes nervous, angry, irritable. Regular orgasm is an important condition for the normal functioning of the body. And there is practically no difference in how it is taken - during sex or masturbation.